There is a biblical order in which God will soften our hearts. He will first soften our hearts toward Christ, then toward each other.

The first step toward a changed heart is to walk in the light with God. This light refers to letting God shine the light of His truth and grace on the sin hidden in our hearts. When we confess that wrongdoing to God and repent of it, we are then able to have fellowship and friendship with one another.

That means you have to soften your heart first toward God, then toward your spouse, regardless of how late it may be in your life or marriage.

The small epistle of 1 John underscores this truth, “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.” 1 John 1:7

Remember, marriage is for better for worse for keeps.

About the Author:
For Better For Worse For Keeps Ministries – www.bobandcherylmoeller.com

Bob is a TV host, radio personality, author, pastor, married for 30 years to Cheryl, father of 6, and a CWAHD.

Marriage is the closest model that exists for Christ’s love for the Church.
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about Christ and the church.” Ephesians 5:31-32
Marriage is God’s Initiative

1.  Awareness
He draws our heart to someone that He has chosen for us.
2.  Conviction
He impresses on our heart a desire to meet and know this person.
3.  Repentance
He brings about a profound change of mind and heart toward this person.
4.  Faith
He creates in us a willingness to trust this person, with our life and future.
5.  Invitation
He gives us the desire to ask this person to share a permanent  and intimate heart relationship with us.
6.  Commitment
He empowers us to publicly confess our lifelong vows of  exclusive love, fidelity and honor to this person.
7.  Intimacy
He knits our hearts together in love, knowledge and intimacy so that we are no longer two, but one.
8.  Permanency
He day by day preserves our love relationship, so what God has joined together no man can separate.
A Final Question for Singles:
Are you ready to take that journey of discipleship?

Remember marriage is for better for worse for keeps.

About the Author:
www.bobandcherylmoeller.com – For Better For Worse For Keeps Ministries

Bob is a TV host, radio personality, author, pastor, married for 30 years to Cheryl, father of 6, and a CWAHD.

1.  Admit just how far we have drifted from God.

2.  Humbly call to God in prayer and fasting.

Pass me not, O gentle Savior,
Hear my humble cry;
While on others Thou art calling,
Do not pass me by. (Words by Fan­ny Cros­by)

3.  Repent with a broken and contrite heart.

4.  Confess our sins to God and one another.

5.  Receive the power of the Holy Spirit to love and serve Christ.

“Will you not revive us again, that your people may rejoice in you? Show us your unfailing love, O LORD, and grant us your salvation.”
Psalm 85: 6-7

Do you have a habit of watching television programs or videos that trouble your thought life?  If so, how can you find the freedom to say no to viewing those things that undercut your life of purity and peace of mind?

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One of the more unpleasant household chores is our semi-annual cleaning underneath our refrigerator. Neither of us looks forward to this event. Why? What we usually find underneath is a layer of decomposed food sludge and green grime. It’s not that we intentionally store or spill sludge and grime in the refrigerator, somehow it just accumulates and finds its way underneath the appliance.

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Do you ever wonder where God came up with the idea of marriage? His ways are not are ways, nor are His thoughts our thoughts, the Bible teaches. Yet, the beauty of marriage may have found its origins within the relationships of the Trinity – the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. To begin with, there is perfect harmony, trust and love within the Trinity. Each Person compliments the role of the others. Each member fulfills His role with joy, completion, and confidence. There is love, support, and communication among the Godhead. Let’s pray, God give me a marriage that mirrors the Trinity.

It creates identity…Children thrive best when they know their parent’s marriage is the basis of their family’s existence.
It creates integrity…Children thrive best when they see a consistency between what their parents teach and how they actually live.
It creates conscience…Children thrive in learning right from wrong by watching how their parents treat one another.
It creates self-confidence…Children thrive best when they can try and fail knowing they’ll still be accepted, because  their parents love one other unconditionally.
It creates respect…Children thrive best when they see loving boundaries in behavior modeled in their parent’s relationship.
It creates perseverance…  Children thrive best when they see their parents marriage vows endure, even during difficult times.
It creates responsibility…Children thrive best when they see  parents love one another by apologizing, admitting their wrong, and asking forgiveness.
It creates security…Children thrive best when they know their parents love one another and intend to stay together.
It creates faith…Children thrive best when they see the love of God, in the love their father and mother have for each other.

Building a Loving Marriage…
1.  Choose to stay married the rest of your life.
2.  Make your relationship with your spouse the highest priority in your life (after your relationship with God).
3.  Act out love to feel love.
4.  Spend 30 minutes a day in shared activity.
5.  Treat each other with love and respect.

Remember, marriage is for better for worse for keeps.

Deuteronomy 4:9 “Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.”

Bob Moeller of For Better For Worse For Keeps Ministries has been married to Cheryl for 30 years.  They are the parents of 6 children and he’s a CWAHD!

Is it possible for the Lord’s Prayer to protect your marriage?

Do you find it difficult to pray with your spouse? Maybe the words come awkwardly or not at all. Let us make a simple suggestion that could turn things around. Why not begin each day by praying the Lord’s Prayer found in Matthew, chapter 6 together? Tell God He is your Father and you desire to do His will. Ask Him to provide your family with your daily bread. Confess that you need to forgive each other to be forgiven. Implore God to deliver you from temptation that could ruin your relationship. If prayed sincerely, God will answer.

Remember, marriage is for better, for worse, and for keeps.

About the Author:
Bob is a TV host, radio personality, author, pastor, married for 30 years to Cheryl, father of 6, and a CWAHD. Visit him on the web at For Better For Worse For Keeps Ministries – www.bobandcherylmoeller.com

1.  Attach a post-it with a Bible verse on the mirror, under the sun visor of her car.
2.  Email your wife your favorite verse. Bob’s favorite Bible verse: Jeremiah 33:3 “Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.”
3.  Text your wife her favorite verse, and tell her you like that verse now, too, because it reminds you, of her.
Cheryl’s favorite verse: Psalm 23:1“The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want.”
4.  Send her a text message, telling her you need her to pray for you, concerning a situation you’re facing.
5.  Read to your children for 15 minutes from the Bible before bedtime each night (even when your kids are adolescents or grown).  And, read to them in the morning, also.
6.  Make breakfast for her (come on, you can do it… a bowl of fresh fruit, a toasted bagel and a cold glass of juice).  Serve it, in bed, with a Psalm printed out from your computer, as the placemat.  Read the Psalm to her and ask, “What does this passage say to you?” and then listen.
7.  Husbands who feel uncomfortable praying out loud, can start by simply holding hands with their wife and praying silently (Gary Chapman’s excellent suggestion).
8.  Another suggestion is to read a couples of pages together, each day, of a marriage book. Such a  book provides structure, content, and a comfortable way to lead  devotions together. Try For Better For Worse For Keeps.
9.  Read Marriage Minutes E-Devotional together each day.  To order: email office@bobandcherylmoeller.com.  Better yet, read it to her each day!
10.  Audio versions of the Bible cost between $50 to $100.  Now, Biblegateway has the entire Bible on audio download, available to hear, at the click of a mouse. The two of you can sit together and listen to one or two chapters of Scripture, read to you in a meaningful fashion. The end result is again, you have had devotions together!

Remember, marriage is for better for worse for keeps

Ephesians 5:26 “…to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the Word.”

Bob Moeller is a TV host, radio personality, author, pastor, conference speaker, sometimes fisherman, husband for 30 years, father of 6 children, and a CWAHD.   Bob and Cheryl Moeller co-founded For Better For Worse For Keeps Ministries