Life goes all too quickly. Here’s 10 ways to ensure that daily living doesn’t turn our marriage into a dull and predictable routine.

1.  Treat each day as a gift from God. Say, “I love you,” at least once a day.
2.  View your wife as the favor of God, on your life.  Give your wife a 90 second hug, every morning.
3.  Spend time with your children, as if they were leaving home tomorrow.  And, have you smiled lately at your kids?
4.  Say the kind things now to your wife, that you would say about them to others, if anything ever happened to your wife.
5.  Make a life of “no regrets” your daily goal.
6.  Look your wife in the eye and listen with love and humility, when they are speaking to you.
7.  Settle the disagreements between you, as if this were the last day of your life.
8.  Ask your wife to tell you the times you have damaged their heart. Don’t attempt to excuse or explain away your wrong behavior.
9.  With true sincerity say, “I am truly sorry.  What I did was wrong.  I ask you to please forgive me.”
10. Extend the same Grace to your wife, that Jesus Christ has extended to you, through His shed blood on the Cross.  We need to be like Jesus and give our spouse, what they need, not what they deserve.

James 4:14 “What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while then disappears.”

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www.bobandcherylmoeller.com – For Better For Worse For Keeps Ministries

Bob is a TV host, radio personality, author, pastor, married for 30 years to Cheryl, father of 6, and a CWAHD.

One goal that every husband should pursue is to make his wife smile each day. It should be the same smile, that was on her face the day, you proposed.

1.  Begin by telling her that you are so grateful she decided to marry you.

2.  Tell her that her heart is the most precious possession you have.

3.  Tell her that all you want in life is to know that she loves you.

4.  Tell her that if you had it to do over, you would marry her again.

5.  Tell her that you are more in love today, than you’ve ever been.

6.  Tell her she is your best thought all day.

Song of Songs 1:15 “How beautiful you are, my darling! O how beautiful!”

“Because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, ‘Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest’”

Preston worked two jobs. During the day he was a repairman; at night he was a security guard. Meanwhile Ashley took care of the kids all day and then worked the night shift as a dispatcher at the police station. They kept up this relentless schedule schedule for several years until the predictable finally happened – their marriage crashed and burned.
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Which of these statements is more dangerous to a marriage? “I’m so mad at you I can hardly speak to you.” “Do whatever you like. I don’t care anymore.”

If you guessed the second answer, you’re right. Although open conflict may be more immediately painful and unpleasant, a state of apathy and withdrawal is even worse in the long run.

Gifted author Willard Harley believes that all marriages move between three states: intimacy, conflict, and withdrawal. Intimacy involves focusing on each other’s needs and avoiding behaviors that irritate, annoy, or wound the other person. Conflict happens when we fail to meet each other’s needs and engage in upsetting behavior or speech. Withdrawal occurs when one or both spouses emotionally disengage from the relationship. Given time, that withdrawal can lead to separation or even divorce.

We were never designed to live in a state of permanent conflict or withdrawal from our spouses. If that’s where your marriage is today, you need to do the hard work of facing your issues and resolving your conflicts. The reward will be an intimate marriage that honors God, gives your kids the best start in life, and makes life worthwhile.

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“Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah.  So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.  Genesis 24:67

The statistics tell a tragic story.  Two out of three children between birth and eighteen will spend at least a portion of their growing up years in a single-parent family.  The University of California tested fifth and sixth graders to see what causes them the most anxiety.  The top answers:  having parents separate or divorce, parents arguing with each other, and parents who don’t spend enough time with their children.  In a survey of high school students at graduation, 80 percent said that a happy and successful marriage is one of the most important goals in life.

It’s obvious that children in our time are desperately looking for love, security, and stability.  The primary source for those life-stabilizing elements is to be found in their home.

No two people on earth are better positioned to offer your children what they so deeply need.  Give them the gift that’s right for Christmas, their birthday, and even graduation.  Like Isaac of old, love the person you married.

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It’s March Madness time and right now we are divided between UCLA and Kansas as a possible NCAA Champion. It’s getting pretty heated up about now.

While all these games are going on, I received a very serious letter from a friend who has a friend going through a divorce. I don’t know any more devastating experience in life than this very subject (not even the death of a spouse). My friend has the wonderful opportunity to turn March Madness in his friend’s life into a wonderful opportunity to minister healing to a hurting and broken brother (As Isaiah reminds us, "A bruised reed He will not break… a smoldering wick He will not snuff out").

I want you to know what I told this friend that he could share with his friend about turning this sorrow and confusion about divorce into something quite different. It all starts with a new attitude on the part of both spouses. If your relationship isn’t working then by all means get rid or it — but don’t get rid of your spouse. Change relationships; not spouses is the short form.

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